Halloween can be a magical time for children: pumpkins, costumes, music, treats, and plenty of opportunities for play. But for some children, especially toddlers, neurodivergent children, and children with sensory processing differences, the traditional Halloween experience can also come with a lot of unexpected sensory input. Crowded sidewalks, loud music, unfamiliar costumes, flashing lights, strong smells, and unexpected interactions can quickly become overwhelming. The good news? Halloween does not have to be scary, and it does not have to look one particular way. As an occupational therapist, I encourage families to think less about what a child “should” be able to tolerate, and more about what will help them participate authentically. The goal isn’t to make your child push through an overwhelming experience. The goal is to create opportunities for connection, play, and fun that fit your child’s unique interests and needs.

HERE ARE THREE BIG MONTEREY BAY EVENTS THAT OFFER  SUPPORTIVE WAYS TO CELEBRATE THE SEASON!

PUMPKIN PLUNGE AT THE MONTEREY SPORTS CENTER Monterey—Sunday, October 25 2 p.m.–5 p.m.

For a completely different Halloween experience, head to the pool! The Monterey Sports Center’s annual Pumpkin Plunge invites families to swim through a sea of pumpkins and choose one to decorate and take home. Youth activities and food vendors will also be available on the sun deck, followed by a Thriller Dance Party and costume contest. The indoor pool and lifeguards make this an option for children of all ages, and parents can swim with their little ones. Pumpkins are available for the first 200 participants, so plan to arrive early!

For children who seek movement and proprioceptive input, swimming can be an especially engaging way to participate in a holiday activity. Of course, every child’s sensory system is different. Some children find pools calm and organized, while others may find the noise, echoes, water temperature, or crowds overwhelming.

CARMEL’S ANNUAL PUMPKIN ROLL Carmel-by-the-Sea Saturday, October 24, 11 a.m.–1 p.m.

Looking for Halloween fun without the ghosts and jump scares? The Annual Pumpkin Roll is a perfect option. Families can pick up a pumpkin on Ocean Avenue at Santa Fe Street and send it rolling down the hill while watching it smash at the bottom. The event is free and takes place during the day, with the streets closed to traffic for the festivities. For toddlers who aren’t quite ready for trick-or-treating, a pumpkin-focused event can provide the excitement of Halloween without requiring them to navigate costumes, candy, unfamiliar homes, or darkness.

OT tip: If your child becomes overwhelmed by crowds, consider arriving early, standing toward the edge of the activity rather than in the center, and giving your child plenty of space to observe before deciding whether they want to participate. Setting up a “basecamp” near Devendorf Park can give your family an anchor spot to relax.

HALLOWEEN ON THE WHARF Monterey Fisherman’s Wharf Saturday, October 31, 4–7 p.m.

If your family is ready for traditional trick-or-treating, Halloween on the Wharf offers a festive community option. Participating merchants will hand out treats, and families can enjoy a costume contest, music from a Halloween DJ, and additional Halloween activities. The event takes place in the late afternoon and early evening, which may work well for families who want the experience of trick-or-treating without staying out late. For younger children, however, a busy public event can still mean a lot of sensory input. Music, crowds, costumes, food smells, and lots of visual activity can add up quickly.

OT tip: Before you go, talk with your child about what they can expect. You might say, “There will be lots of people wearing costumes. There will be music. We are going to visit some shops and get treats, and then we can go home when your body tells us it is ready.” Giving children a simple preview can make an unfamiliar experience feel more predictable. You could even show them photos of the businesses on the wharf that they can expect to see. 

TWO BONUS EVENTS

Halloween Member Night at the Monterey Bay Aquarium

Friday, October 23 & Saturday, October 24, 7–10 p.m.

NOTE: Halloween event tickets are required for admission for members and their guests.

For families with children who want a bigger Halloween experience without haunted houses or traditional scary attractions, the Monterey Bay Aquarium’s annual Halloween Member Night offers an ocean-themed celebration. Families can come in costume, explore the Aquarium at night, dance to Halloween music, and purchase Halloween-themed food and drinks.

Because this is an evening event with music, costumes, and plenty to explore, families can choose the parts of the experience that best fit their child. A sensory-sensitive child may enjoy watching the fish swim by, exploring the aquarium at a comfortable pace, or taking in the sights from a quieter area. 

Sensory Storytime 

Olivia & Daisy Bookstore, Carmel Valley Wednesday, October 7, 10:30 a.m.

For families looking for a gentler introduction to Halloween month, this event is designed with sensory needs and little ones in mind. Families can enjoy hands-on sensory activities, an inclusive storytime, and community connection. The event is hosted in collaboration with occupational therapists from Children’s Therapy Center Co. 

OT TIPS FOR A MORE COMFORTABLE HALLOWEEN

You don’t have to wait until Halloween night to figure out what works for your child. A little preparation can make a big difference.

KEEP COSTUMES COMFORTABLE. Pajamas, a favorite outfit with a fun accessory, or a soft cape can be just as festive. If your child dislikes masks, face paint, hats, or certain fabrics, skip them.

PRACTICE WITHOUT PRESSURE. If your child is going to wear a costume, let them try it on throughout the month of October. They can wear it around the house, play in it, or decide that they don’t like it. This gives you time to make adjustments before the big event.

PREPARE FOR SENSORY SURPRISES. Think about what your child may encounter: loud music, crowds, flashing lights, strong smells, costumes, or people approaching them. Consider bringing headphones, sunglasses, a comfort item, a change of clothes, or another familiar regulation tool. 

REDUCE COMMUNICATION DEMANDS. Not every child will be comfortable saying “trick-or-treat” or answering questions from unfamiliar adults. You can model the words, use gestures, or bring an AAC device or simple visual card. Authentic participation doesn’t depend on using verbal communication.

HAVE AN EXIT PLAN. Before entering an event, identify where you could go if your child needs a break. Review this plan with your child and let them know that they can take a break or leave if things become too much. Knowing there is an escape route can help everyone feel more comfortable.

FOLLOW YOUR CHILD’S CUES. If your child is covering their ears, hiding, becoming unusually quiet, running away, or repeatedly asking to leave, their body may be communicating that they’ve had enough. Rather than waiting for a full meltdown, consider taking a break proactively.

HALLOWEEN IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR CHILDREN TO EXPERIENCE PLAY, COMMUNITY, CREATIVITY, AND CONNECTION. There is no single right way to celebrate. Whether your family chooses a sensory-friendly storytime, a daytime pumpkin event, a swim in a pool full of pumpkins, traditional trick-or-treating, or a quiet celebration at home, the best Halloween is one where your child can participate in a way that feels comfortable and enjoyable for them.

And if that means skipping the scary stuff altogether, that’s perfectly okay. After all, Halloween can be magical without being frightening!