Back to School Struggles

Signs a child may be struggling at school, helpful steps to try, and local resources.

School is just beginning, and although some students may be excited to return, others may already be dreading socializing with other kids, homework, or just the transition back to school.

What amazes me most about kids is that they are extremely resilient. Some students may show signs that they are having challenges, while others may go under the radar. In my experience as a former school-based therapist, the majority of children and teens will not ask for help, and teens will often not want to receive help when asked. 

DON’T FORGET SCREEN TIME

Another area worth paying attention to is kids’ screen time on phones and laptops. Are you checking what your child is searching or watching? How long are they on their phone at night? Social media and certain websites unfortunately continue to show negative impacts on youth, and some of the warning signs below may also be related to screens. I suggest you trust your gut when you feel something is off. I believe it’s always better to check in than to let it go and wait for something else to happen.

NAVIGATING SCHOOL-BASED SUPPORT

I worked in both primary and secondary schools, and I learned that every school district is different in many ways, including its procedures for how students receive mental health support. Some schools may have a mental health counselor every day, some only two days a week, and some none at all. It’s important to note that students with an individualized education plan (IEP) have priority for counseling services. When students are having challenges beyond the school setting—for example, divorce or defiance at home with parents—they can be referred to community resources. Many school-based therapists may provide group therapy to serve multiple students and build relationships.

If you think your child may benefit from mental health services, the first step could be to reach out to the school and learn its process for a referral, and to determine what services would be most beneficial. In primary school, the primary teacher would most likely be the first contact. In secondary school, a helpful first step is to contact the academic counselor and inform them of your concerns.

FINDING COMMUNITY RESOURCES

Another idea is to reach out to community resources and learn more about what types of mental health support are available locally based on your child’s age. If you think your child would benefit from individual or family counseling, different resources are available depending on insurance, sliding scales, or out-of-pocket payment plans. Again, each city is different, and accessibility can vary. 

Mental Health Resources for Monterey County

Disclaimer: The information shared in this article is for informational purposes only and is not to be substituted for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health provider with any questions regarding a mental health condition.