1. Look at baby photos together and tell them stories about what they were like as infants or toddlers.
2. Make their favorite meal for dinner tonight--even if it’s something crazy that you don’t want to eat.
3. Create a special “I love you” signal just for them: a funny handshake, tugging your ear, a double wink. Get creative and make sure each child has a unique signal.
4. Apologize when you make a mistake. It’s such a great way for them to learn humility.
5. Give your child a foot or hand rub. Who doesn’t enjoy a relaxing massage, children included? It’s especially welcome at bedtime to help your little one relax.
6. Hold your child’s hand. Sitting on the couch watching a movie or heading out for a walk? Reach out and hold your child’s hand. It’s such a nice reminder that you’re there and that you love them.
7. Start a journal for just the two of you. Get a special notebook that’s just for the two of you. You can leave each other messages, write down memories together, even paste in photos or other memories.
8. Tell them one thing you admire about them–make it specific and different each time. We all want to have our strengths pointed out and reinforced, kids are no exception. Let them know you notice that they always make their bed without being asked.
9. Speak positively about your child in front of other people. This goes along with number 8, but now the positive remarks are to others. It’s important for children to hear specific and sincere praise from their parents.
9. Listen when your child talks. Look directly at them and give them the honor of your attention. Don’t rush to get back to your work or your chores.
10. Slow down. Instead of insisting your child “hurry,” let them go at their own speed. Don’t rush them along when they are looking at bugs during a neighborhood walk. Give them space to explore at a slower speed than yours.
11. Serve your child breakfast in bed-for no reason. Sit and chat with them while they enjoy room service.
12. Find “your” song. Whether it’s a lullaby you sing to them each night or a current rock ballad you both sing at the top of your lungs, having a special song is a sweet way to share a moment each time you hear it.
13. Show interest in their interests. Hate video games but your child loves them? Sit down with them while they play and really pay attention. You don’t have to love it but your child will appreciate your willingness to participate.